Ask and It is Given by Esther and Jerry Hicks is a wealth of information for becoming our more deliberate creators because it creates a map for where you are emotionally, to what you really desire. Pivoting Process works on the logic that when we know what we do want, we also know what we do not want, so by contrast, we learn how to expand our awareness of what it is we desire. The challenge is that the two ends of the stick of "desire" is "want" and "lack".
PREREQUISITES FOR PIVOT PROCESS:
- Requires awareness that we are focused on what we "do not" want.. and a desire to shift that desire to what we do want to flow into our life experiences.
- Requires clear case of feeling of negative emotion and attraction to a more concrete desire of positive counterbalance-- what is it that you DO want?
I am not yet where I want to be, but very proud of where I have come with my health, weight loss, and emotional well being. The awareness that I was feeling threatened, unloved, and perhaps a rampage of depreciation brought this desire into crystal clarity for me.
The negative emotions associated with this person were considerable, because every family gathering seemed to be an example of bringing more situations of "tough love" which was really just strong opinions, masked in bitter observations that stung and hurt. I felt devalued with every criticism. Attempts to speak what I did want, did not seem to change the behavior, but when I was not around this person, I seemed to do better.
In life we have a choice in how our experiences mold us, and how we create goodness from them. In my case, too often, I quickly fell into the roles of not good enough. I felt guilt for not being able to manage the situation despite my readings. I felt selfish for not being able to really stand up for myself in a way that moved us both to a better relationship. I understand that all in our relationship is in vibration, and that our vibration, was consistently toxic in it's level of intensity, disappointment, and my relationship with creative action, when around them.
The condition has been with me and of concern when I started dating my husband in college in the late eighties. There are times when things were worse, and times when they were better, but my power seemed to be challenged by the insensitive manner in which she would deliver such difficult news.
FEELING: (what is desire/lack of desire).
- I SHOULD be more organized -- want to be organized, like to be organized, so stressed with change, organization is not first instinct.
- I SHOULD take better care of myself - I believe I am taking good care of myself, I want to pursue better life balance, with less criticism, guilt, and stubbornness to drive myself.
- I SHOULD be kinder and more sensitive to difficult personalities - want to be more efficient when dealing with challenging personalities, but gosh, why are they so obsessed with creating pain at me? I would like to be quicker to identify and release bindings introduced through the critical nature of others.
- I SHOULD be more responsible because I have the capacity to do better, if I seek it. - I want to be better at what I am not good at? I don't want to be so slow at grasping the idea that could transform our relationships. I like that I can identify when I am being challenged by my own story and sticking points, and subject myself to the impossible criticisms of others. I wanted more than anything to be loved by everyone, and yet when I feel like the reason for this negative energy, I feel a huge responsibility, perhaps more of a burden than is actually my job to take on. I am ready to be a responsible creator of their own reality, and start right now with creating my own happiness and defining the capacity and the rules for our positive engagement-- without the bindings.
- I SHOULD realize I am really never going to really amount to much, regardless of how hard I try. - want to be connected and part of inspired people, and appreciated for my talents.
- I like to be connected to many people with different ideas... we can learn from one another.
- We are very different in our life experience, and do not need to agree on how we measure success, we need to agree on how we care and really support one another's worth, without it taking a cost on the other.
- I like to be connected to a stream of constant improvement and continuous advancement in expression-- and it begins with appreciation for where we are today.
- If we can quantify for one another what the desire is, we can communicate better how we align more than offend in our desire to create a better living vibration.
Where am I now? Where am I really? How can I feel more empowered and inspired to manage the matters that really matter?
